Why Sharing Financial Burden?

By ABIBATU LAWANU

Naturally it is the duty of the man as the head of the home and the bread winner to cater for his family. But when a man shirk his responsibility as a husband and father, you need to be watchful because some wives are left with the burden of taking care of their homes. Some women take their destiny in their hands and do their best while others take up such duty with grudges and nagging.

There is yet another category of women who would do nothing to assist their husbands instead they strongly believe that the man must perform his duties come rain come sunshine. This isn’t right. A woman should be there to encourage and as well as to pacify her husband’s stress with both gentle word and loving touch. If he has lost his job, he has to take steps to get another, taking responsibility of the home and family is not the problem but if he is the lazy type, who depends on a woman fall all things, be very careful., on the other hand. If he is hard working, think and makes attempt at success, but isn’t gainfully employed or has experienced a set back in his business, it is advisable that you exercise patience till he achieves his goal. There is no point to remind a man of his joblessness, lest he become frustrated and as well being emotionally disturbed.

Sadly, the motto for some women is for better to stay, “for worse to go”. They are not ready to endure with any man, not even the man who had been a caring husband and father to their children. But due to some circumstances that deprived him from meeting his obligations.

Nowadays, it is common for wives to earn more than their husbands and that has created fears of a reversal of traditional roles in the homes. There are tensions and social pressures involved in this.

Increasingly, wives earn more than their husbands and that is creating tensions and pressures in many homes. The situation has been made worse by the economic crisis which has mean more and more jobless husbands and their wives becoming sole breadwinners for the family. It is a situation many find difficult to reconcile with the traditional concept of the role of the man in the home.

Our economy today does not give the men what traditionally, would be regarded as more of their fair share of the family burden. Much to the horror of most women who earn more than their husbands, their husbands expect them to pay most of the bills. An increasing number of women would feel exploited. After all, they are the weaker sex, married to the stranger sex, to be loved and protected and that includes financial protection.

When it involves financial matters in marriage, one has to be very careful because some men only begin to appreciate their wives when they are financially handicapped. They will remain at home 24/7 and act as best husband but when their financial situation begin to improve, it won’t take long for the man’s character to change. Please note that I by no means condemn being of help to your husband if he’s broke or lost his job; provided it’s temporal. What I am trying to say is that you first consider how he related to you when he had a job. If the man have done something to show how uncaring he is and has hurt you deeply in the process, I don’t think anything warrants giving him financial assistance. Such a man will also maltreat you once he has found his footing.

Everything has to do with understanding. A woman can continue to contribute indirectly, let your man be the man of the house. If you continue to ram it down his throat that you contribute that much, then you don’t have a happy man.